BENNY AND SHOLA- TRADITIONAL & WEDDING

How beautiful it is to see your day come through.
All the months of planning, the spending, the family conflict on the right ase-obi and gele to buy.
 The counselling and wedding rehearsals.... lets even take a moment to remember the animals slaughtered and the hours of banters with the caterer on the choice of dishes.

It all boils down to one day... or maybe two days but the most important moment is when you say 'I DO'.

Here are the pictures that captured the special days of Benevolence and Olushola Buoye.

The traditional Wedding.

The wedding 

We wish them a happy married life full of love, laughter, peace, wealth and children in Jesus name.



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Journey to forever- falling In love

Hello and welcome on board to charmantweddings. We will be embarking on a journey to forever land and I will be taking you through different things, you need to know as you prepare for your marriage and even during your marriage. Buckle up, as we begin this journey, our route includes : falling in love, preparing for marriage and how to make my marriage work. Thank you and enjoy the ride.

  FALLING IN LOVE

 What does it mean to fall in love? So many have likened 'falling in love' to been on drugs. Some call it 'a temporary high'. Falling in love is an elation and just as nothing makes sense when you are under the influence, nothing makes sense when you have fallen in love. That explains why beauty didn't mind loving a beast. Love defiles logic and sullys reasoning, no wonder Jesus died for a sinful world Love That glow... the sense of peace and accomplishment, tingles on first dates, butterflies in your tummy. You know, that hot and cold feeling that makes you crave more physical touch...

  "Our dreams before marriage are of mental bliss.. it is hard to believe anything else when you are in love."                                    
                                                                                                                      -Dr Gary Chapman 

That euphoric feeling you have with each other, to talk always, Skype and go on dates. You make sacrifices in a heart best, damn the consequences! And you forgive easily as Jesus.
  This is falling in love. 

However, Dr Chapman stated in his book The 5 love languages, that the 'in love' experience is fiction not fact. In this fictitious life, a man can be loosing concentration at work but it's okay by him because he is in love. The in love experience is an illusion that your beloved is perfect. Ofcourse you acknowledge the fact that you both have differences but you strongly believe you can over come all hurdles together. But just like ever high experience, gradually reality sets in and cloud nine dissipates. Eventually, the 'in love' experience dies (usually after two years according to research)  and the differences between you both glares right back at you like a wrong shade of red.

 All of a sudden, you discover your man snores and you can't stand it or he uses his fingers to pick his teeth and you are disgusted... it could be the other way round, the man can find out that his babe isn't has as beautiful without makeup or that she is a secret glutton. So if falling in love is fiction not fact, what is the fact about love?

 To be continued...

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ORDAINED BY GOD- BENNY AND SHOLA

Have you ever met someone and in that moment you knew things were about to change in your life?

Well, believe it or not, that was the story of Benevolence Oluwasikemi and Olushola Kunle Buoye

THE BRIDE

At the beginning of the year 2015, just after the completion of the 40 days redeem fast (which by God’s grace I fully participated in LOL!), a longtime friend of mine from  Ahmadu Bello University - A.B.U contacted me that she wanted to order things from my boutique- Bcharis. We quickly caught up on lost times and negotiated the business transaction.

All that was left was the delivery and since I usually delivered within the country, I was faced with a little challenge because she was not in the country. As I looked for a way to deliver her order, she contacted me again that I should deliver it to her cousin Shola who would send it to her. I called him to say that the order will arrive by the afternoon of that day, and BOOM!! He fell in love with my voice. He added me up on Whatsapp and after three weeks of chatting, he decided to come and see me. The rest is history.

Fast forward to February 2016, exactly a year later, we were joined at the registry and in a few days we would be one.

I love Shola with all my heart, he is truly my better half and I can’t wait to spend forever with him. God has been too good is all I can say.

THE GROOM

On this faithful Wednesday morning, I was preparing for my journey when an angel called. Literally, an angel called as I fell in love with her voice. Little did I know that she was my destiny partner. I had prayed for a wife during the fasting and prayer amongst other things. I just had inner peace talking with her always and every day.

She is supportive, caring and loving. She is truly benevolent as her name goes… I love her and I want to spend my forever with her. Every moment with her is deeply cherished, movies, dates, strolls, church… Every single moment!

I know I have found a good thing and have obtained favour from God and still obtaining favour. Together we would weather the storm with God on our side.

Save the date- 1st and 2nd April 2016, as Benevolence Oluwasikemi Mosimabale and Olushola Olakunle Buoye become one.
We Wish them  a very happy married life.

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LOVE AND FORGIVENESS

It is much easier to profess love than to abide by what love really means.

"4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. 

Love never fails regardless of what happens, regardless of the challenges faced between couples, between families, love never fails. 

The secret of growing in love is by exercising patience with one another. "love does not dishonor, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered and most importantly, love keeps no record of wrong."

Saying things like "last month my wife wronged me or yesterday my husband failed to take out the trash" are not acceptable statements in any relationship where love abides, because every offence or wrong committed is new. Besides, Jesus said we should forgive 70 x 70 in a day. meaning that by the next day, there is a new slate devoid of all records of wrong.

It is time to reevaluate your love. Instead of focusing on one offence or all the wrongs, focus on those beautiful moments shared- those movies you watched together, the long evening strolls, the laughter shared, those secrets and insecurities, those times you depended on each other... focus on what you love about your spouse rather than what you don't Lovet

"But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."

Everything will pass away but love will remain, everything will fade away but love will never fade away. 

The success of any marriage is to love and forgive over and over again.

Happy Sunday

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You, me, Us

Love they say is a beautiful thing, ow yeah! It sure is. But there is nothing like meeting the ‘One’.

You see relationships are selfish. You want certain qualities in your man and a man want certain qualities in his woman. When you find the woman with all the qualities you desire, you want the woman by all means. She is the one for you and in fact, you start hearing God’s voice in that moment, even if you have never heard it before. All of a sudden, the scripture “He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing” is stuck on your mind. She is your wife and you must have her by all means.

Not so fast man, stop and think what does this woman want? And am I what she wants? that should be the ultimate question. If you are not what she wants, then your gifts and romantic gestures will fall to ground. 

You see, two cannot walk together unless they agree (Amos 3:3). Except for those rare cases where there is an attraction, an agreement and a union.

The strength of a relationship is born from your ability to be selfless. A time when it is no longer about what is good for you but what is good for both of you. Love is about sacrifice. John 3:16 says “for God so loved the world that he gave…”

It is so beautiful to be in love especially a love that is mutual, one that joins you and your partner till you are one. You cannot eat without thinking if your spouse has eaten, that kind of love that will keep you faithful to your spouse and will make you share everything together. There is no ‘you and I’ in a marriage but ‘us’.  (Ephesians 5:31).

So get your facts straight and evaluate your decisions with the word of God. Remember God is against divorce so make sure you can spend forever with that lady or that man before you talk about Marriage. The wedding ceremony is all drama and publicity, think about the life after the wedding, the new life that is about you and your spouse.

God bless.

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