Hello and welcome on board to charmantweddings. We will be embarking on a journey to forever land and I will be taking you through different things, you need to know as you prepare for your marriage and even during your marriage. Buckle up, as we begin this journey, our route includes : falling in love, preparing for marriage and how to make my marriage work. Thank you and enjoy the ride.
FALLING IN LOVE
What does it mean to fall in love? So many have likened 'falling in love' to been on drugs. Some call it 'a temporary high'. Falling in love is an elation and just as nothing makes sense when you are under the influence, nothing makes sense when you have fallen in love. That explains why beauty didn't mind loving a beast. Love defiles logic and sullys reasoning, no wonder Jesus died for a sinful world Love That glow... the sense of peace and accomplishment, tingles on first dates, butterflies in your tummy. You know, that hot and cold feeling that makes you crave more physical touch...
"Our dreams before marriage are of mental bliss.. it is hard to believe anything else when you are in love."
-Dr Gary Chapman
That euphoric feeling you have with each other, to talk always, Skype and go on dates. You make sacrifices in a heart best, damn the consequences! And you forgive easily as Jesus.
This is falling in love.
However, Dr Chapman stated in his book The 5 love languages, that the 'in love' experience is fiction not fact. In this fictitious life, a man can be loosing concentration at work but it's okay by him because he is in love. The in love experience is an illusion that your beloved is perfect. Ofcourse you acknowledge the fact that you both have differences but you strongly believe you can over come all hurdles together. But just like ever high experience, gradually reality sets in and cloud nine dissipates. Eventually, the 'in love' experience dies (usually after two years according to research) and the differences between you both glares right back at you like a wrong shade of red.
All of a sudden, you discover your man snores and you can't stand it or he uses his fingers to pick his teeth and you are disgusted... it could be the other way round, the man can find out that his babe isn't has as beautiful without makeup or that she is a secret glutton. So if falling in love is fiction not fact, what is the fact about love?
To be continued...
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